Talbot , N. This is because the purpose of alimony and the divorce property division is to be fair and equitable to both spouses, and not to punish bad behavior. Kittredge v. Kittredge , N. But, on the other hand, when an adulterous spouse dissipates wastes marital money during the course of an affair, judges are likely to consider that fact when making alimony decisions. For example, in Ross v.

Ross , a husband spent marital funds on therapy for his mistress, and the appellate court ruled that his adultery should be factored into the alimony award because he was squandering marital funds on someone other than his spouse. McMahon v. McMahon , N.

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Was your relationship something special worth fighting for? Or was it just a run-of-the-mill, nothing special, everyday relationship that you could realistically find with someone else? If it was something special, even in the slow moments, then continue on to the next question. Does your ex think their behaviour was wrong?

We both know they should think it was wrong to cheat on you, but do they actually think it was wrong? Are they remorseful for their behaviour and do they see the error of their ways? If your ex does think their behaviour was wrong, then continue to the next question.

A lot of people do things they believe are wrong over and over again without any real desire to change. Is your ex one of them? Or do they truly desire to change their ways and start living their life differently? If they do want to change, continue to the next question. Change is a difficult process that takes commitment, time, energy and dedication. Has your ex ever done this? Can you think of a time during your relationship where your ex successfully changed their behaviour? If your ex has displayed the ability to change their behaviour previously, then continue to the next question.

So, have the changes your ex made in their life been permanent? Or have the fallen off the wagon and gone back to their old ways after a short while? You have to consider the bigger picture. In this case, that bigger picture is: when you think about the kind of life you want to live, will being in this relationship take you closer or further away? This is incredibly important to consider.

At the end of the day, when this relationship is all said and done, will you be closer to your One Perfect Day? Or will you be further away? Will getting back together with this ex help you:.

Even though you want to be in a relationship with your ex and you think they can change their ways, will being in a relationship with them help you become the best person possible? So before you do anything, before you let emotion take control and follow your heart to a place that feels right in the moment, stop for a second and consider whether you want to get your ex back.

Are you setting yourself up to resent this decision and this person? Or are you making a smart decision? A relationship ended because I cheated early in the relationship. It was something that we tried to get past, but the trust issues and resentment just kept resurfacing and we called it quits. We took several months and worked on ourselves and let our old relationship become a distant memory. Our relationship is better than ever and we are actually now engaged.

How did you pull away from eac th other an focus on yourselfs, in order to better things with them in the future? In in the same situation right now with my ex wife. I love her deeply an i know she loves me as well still but i left her more then 5 times to be with my ex. Just need some advice. My name is not Alex its David so whats Iswear I have not laughed this much in years thank you so very I hope your getting just as much kick out of all this like I am but I was talking about my new account my pop-money Im gonna catch them andfind there names and request there I can do that you know for them takeing what I do on line and there makin money from it It is funnier then shit know but it has brought just as many heart breaks and tears too go along with it matter fact I am remembering a name Labron James ok Thanks agian.

He still feels hurt he says bit he really loves me? We are in a long distance relationship and I cheated on her. It was eating me up and I told her. That and all the other negatives that come along with a long distance relationship finally resulted in her breaking up with me.

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But we both still love each other and we put all of ourselves into it because we were sure. I deeply regret what I did and want us to be together again. What did you do to convince her to be back together? If you do manage to get rid of her and get passed your obsession for a girl like this…. I wanted to say I think it is wonderful you have done so well at making things work.

Do you have any updates on how you are both doing now? I would like to share my story with others to maybe help. I was the cheater in my marriage. This has been a tough pill to swallow as I have never imagined I would place my husband and our marriage in such a position. During our engagement things were tough. Like physical, emotional, verbal abuse occurring. Both of our parts. We have two boys one from my previous relationship.

They were our only solace. I screamed, cried, pleaded for some salvation in our marriage.